Everybody has their origins. Few men start out as Casanovas; even veterans with rock solid game still make mistakes. I am the voice of experience. I tried everything out there. I practices game religiously, got versed on the latest techniques, went out, tried it, failed and began the cycle again. I never had a mentor, the most I had was a computer screen. For me, it was a long sluggish journey to get where I am now. Today I want to help you avoid the same mistakes I made…
Mistake 1: Peacocking with dirty feathers
I used to go out dressed like a twat, and hoped somehow it would get me laid. At one stage, I used to have dreadlocks and handlebar moustaste, then go out with zebra skinned platform shoes with fish in the heel, a ruffled shirt, and a massive purple pimp hat with a matching zebra band and a large feather it in. Did I get attention from women? Yes – TONS, but it wasn’t always the right type of attention. Did I get laid? Hardly ever.
Peacocking works, but you need to look cool – not retarded.
Mistake 2: Over-negging
I use to neg all the time: dishing out subtle insults/backhanded compliments for the purposes of lowering a girl’s self esteem, hoping she will seek validation from me. It worked sometimes, but the majority of time I came across as a complete dick. While teasing has it’s place, it’s not always a winner. Sometime I just hurt people’s feelings. I over-negged. I tried an experiment and stopped negging altogether. The result – my success with women skyrocketed.
Mistake 3: Boasting
In pick up, they call this a DHV (demonstration of higher value). It’s a great way to subtly let a girl know you’re a high value guy, but taken too far it looks needy and pathetic. My biggest flaw was boasting (it probably still is). I can’t help it. When I tell someone them about my life, it just comes across like I’m a pretentious, conceited prick. The problem is I’m too awesome. Even when I’m being modest, I’m still too awesome. Guys consider me competition, girls think I probably jack off to my reflection. I’ve had to learn to shut the fuck up about myself.
Mistake 4: Over Analysis
This is a problem for a lot of guys. I not longer pine over irrational reactions, flakage or interpreting texts. I no longer focus my attention on any particular woman. I’ve stopped thinking about what I’ve done wrong. When you get into the game you’re mind is in over-drive: how is my body posture, what angle should I point my feet, what should I say after this, time contrast, neg, kino, DHV. Ahh! Maybe I need to read more. A quote I heard once: “There’s no such thing as an armchair Lothario.” Women can tell if you’re treating the interaction like a chess game. Unfortunately it takes time to internalize things, then you can stop thinking and learn to relax. In golf, you can theorize about your swing all you want, but unless you hit the driving range you won’t get any better.
Mistake 5: Failing Logistics
If you fail to plan, you plan to fail. How are you going to bang a girl on the first date if you have nowhere to do the deed? It’s common sense. In the early days, I never thought things through. There were so many lost opportunities. You have to have a plan for end game. You have to plan, where you going to take her, what your your going to do, and how you’re going to steer her into your den.
Maybe you live at home… Use a fucking shed – A heater, a soft surface and a few candles is all you need (used to do this plenty). Hell use the local church if you have too. Once there’s privacy, a horny chick will bang just about anywhere.
Maybe you’re travelling and staying in a dorm room… How the fuck do you expect a chick to get frisky in front of a load of backpackers? Real players use private rooms on date nights.
So there’s my mistakes, hope this helps. Please share yours…
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