Love comes in many forms. It can last a lifetime, or just a couple of seconds. It can be with one woman for 50 years, or with several women replaced at regular intervals. Today I’m dealing with the latter.
For those of you who aren’t versed in the triangular theory of love, I would like to direct you to the following diagram.
Now, let’s apply this to game. If you want to read more about each of seven types of love you can read this. For the purposes of briefness this argument ignores chemical basis for love, and looks more at behaviorism.
What do men like us primarily want – Sex (Passion). Therefore we’re dealing with infatuatous, fatuous, romantic and consummate love.
But what if you meet a nice chick you want to keep in your harem?
You need to know what most women want – Everything (Consummate love).
Most modern women will not settle for polygamy, promiscuity, or non-commitment in the long term.
So here’s the question: How do you make a beautiful woman fall in love with you, fuck you senseless, remain loyal to you and be content with a non-exclusive relationship.
Wouldn’t that be sweet? Ideal?
Here’s the game plan…
Think like Pavlov. Act like Zorro.
One may be a psychologist, the other a masked hero, but together they create the ultimate Lothario.
Get her to associate love with sex. You also need to fast-track love. You have to be Pavlov.
Fuck her first. Don’t try and get close to her, don’t try win her over or promise to give her the moon. Fuck her first, and fuck her really good. This is crucial.
Use this as her reward for sex. After she spreads her legs, open your heart. You need to train her like a bitch, just like Pavlov’s theory: through cause and effect create positive association. Sex = closeness. Good dog.
This is the tricky bit. Similar to intimacy, your commitment should only be hinted at after sex (several sexual encounters in fact). Some women just wanna fuck, but remember they are still genetically programmed to choose males who will provide for their offspring (ie- stick around). The trick is hit at long term commitment using the ‘us’ frame*. Talk about doing thing together in the future and use words like we. It will push the right buttons.
Love may blossom, but only in darkness.
If you want a woman to feel consummate love, but want to avoid monogamy, the secret is mystery. You have to be Zorro.
You have to be a man of mystery. Don’t tell what you do for a living. Don’t tell her where you’re going. Don’t talk about other women. Everything is a secret. Tell you have to go away for a month to Lebanon for ‘business’. Don’t see her for long periods of time. Simple economics = lower supply, increase demand. Tell her you lead a double life, one that she can never know about. Everything about you is a mystery.
Extreme? Yes. But it’s works. Women love that shit. As far as she’s concerned you’re either a mob boss or work for the C.I.A. She’ll fantasize about you – become addicted, obsessed even. Fantasy is a powerful tool. The reality is much more sinister. Technically you do have a double life: banging the other women who fall for the fantasy.
Alternatively, you can be completely honest about everything. Be Mr. Free Love. But Zorro lasts longer.
The elusive harem.
As any international playboy will tell you – it’s easy to maintain a global harem. You don’t have to a globetrotting mystery man, but that not to say you can’t offer that illusion.
Love to her your questions or comments guys….
Do you have your own harem?