Some of you may remember the final passage in my book, when I answered the question: What is the one thing I’ve learned from travelling the world? My answer was this: If anything, I’ve unlearned more than I’ve learned.

The concept of breaking away from one’s behavioral conditioning / socialisation is quite well illustrated in ‘The Red Pill’ concept which has become a central tenet of Manosphere thinking.

Taking the Red Pill is the first step in ‘unplugging from the matrix’ and questioning your cultural indoctrination. To help you on that path, I’ve devised 5 concepts that you must unlearn for you to rebuild yourself as a better, smarter, more introspective person.

1. Unlearn Religion

Religion is for the blind. If you want to be a theist and believe in all-powerful sky god that will send you to a fiery underworld for eating bacon, go ahead, but ask yourself: What if you grew up somewhere else? Your world view would be as different as your words. Like language, the only thing that determines a religious person’s belief system is geography. If you were born in the Trobriand Islands, you’d believe pregnancy occurs after praying to the sun. If you were born in the Bible belt, you’d probably believe a into magic man who came back as a zombie to save the world from their sins. Both are equally ridiculous.

While there may be nuggets of wisdom embedded in every religion, that does excuse the other 95% of illogical, hocus-pocus crap that comes with it.

Determine your OWN values and develop your OWN principals after heavy consideration, wide reading, and intellectual discourse.

Where to Start?

I suggest reading books like the God Delusion by Richard Dawkins. Then build on that by tackling the classics, the great philosophers, and modern works on the subjects of ethics, well-being, and self-improvement.

2. Unlearn Equality

“All men HUMANS* are created equal.”  *Feminist edit.

“All humans LIVING THINGS** are created equal.” **Animal rights activist edit.

Ah yes, the immortal declaration—one of the most poisonous and pervasive ideas in Western society. Never mind the fact that the founding fathers had to audacity to pen this during mass slavery. Nowadays, equality is on the lips of every revolution, and every non-rich, non-political, non-male, non-white, non-westerner there is.

Guess what?

Equality is a myth. Is does not exist. It is an idealist pipe-dream. A noble idea, perhaps, applicable is some circumstances (like suffrage), but when taken too literally is has no grounding in reality. There is a hierarchy to everything and the faster you accept that, the better. 

Take beauty for example. Some are born more beautiful than others. A war against “Fat shaming” won’t change that.

Take race for example. West Africans are born stronger and taller than southeast Asians.

Take sex for example. Men are more with more testosterone and less estrogen than women, which results in different behavioral attributes. Shocking, I know.

Take class for example. People from rich, first world families will go on to be richer than those born in the slums of central Africa. We are the 99%. Boo-hoo. What you gonna do about it?

The unnatural concept of equality  should be obvious, but equalist ideology has tried to convince us that bioscience and human nature are irrelevant. Don’t be fooled.

Where to Start?

You can complain about inequality or you can make the most of your position and do your very best to work your way up the feeding chain. Get rich, get game, get stronger and sexier.

3. Unlearn Women

This point is redundant if you’re a regular reader, but I’ll repeat myself. Unless you’re into game, unlearn everything you’ve been taught about women. Do not listen to women when they talk about what they want, because most of them haven’t a clue or lie about it. Most importantly, unlearn EVERYTHING your mother ever told you about women. Flowers, dinner dates, compliments… all BAD. Women say they want a man to be sensitive, giving, little puppy dogs, yet when it comes down to it, they end up falling assholes who who sleep with their best friends. You don’t have to be an asshole to get laid, but being a ‘nice guy’ will get you squat.

Where to Start?

Learn Game and everything you can about attraction.

4. Unlearn ‘Wise’ Sayings

Adages, proverbs, or ‘wise old sayings’ are the cereal bars of wisdom. They’re good marketing that package ideology is a sentence. But not all ideology is right or wise. A good idiom may seem profound and give you the feelies, but tear open the shiny wrapper and often what you’ll inside is pure rubbish. (But don’t get me wrong, some of worth saving.)

Where to Start?

Here’s are list of 7 examples of bad idioms off the top of my head you should immediately put out of your mind.

1. “Be Yourself.”

Don’t. Be better. Never settle to simply ‘be yourself’. Couldn’t you be more educated, fitter, or speak another language. Yourself if not good enough. Strive to be your best self.

2. “The pen is mightier then the sword.”

Ever got stabbed with a sword? Fuck that.

3. “Two wrongs don’t make a right.”

Not always. If a guy raped your daughter and you killed him, you’d feel pretty good about it. Vengeance is sweet.

4. “Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.”

This is what fat and ugly say to make themselves feel better. Beauty is mathematically quantifiable. Everybody knows beauty when they see it.

5. “A penny saved is a penny earned.”

Ever heard of inflation?

6. “Honesty is the best policy.”

No, not always. Lying is often very advantageous. “Don’t worry, I just got checked and I’m clean. Now suck that dick.” * Physic* Hmm… AIDSilicious.

“Absence makes the heart grow fonder.”

Actually, absence leads to cheating. Absence makes the heart go fondle.

5. Unlearn Materialism and The Rat Race

Go to school, get a good degree, get a good job, work 9-5 for 30 to 40 years, but TONS OF SHIT in the process, then fuck off and die.

That’s the script you’re supposed to follow. Why? What’s the point in having a nice car, a big house, and trophy wife who spends your money when it means a life of slavery in the cooperate world?

You could make quarter of that cash online and live like a king in Asia. Or you could work part time and travel the world. Or better yet, work for yourself. Regardless, don’t spend all your cash on stupid shit just to show off to other people. Studies have shown that people are more satisfied spending their money on experiences rather than material possessions.

Think Lifestyle. Think Freedom. Think Minimalism.

There’s nothing wrong with riches and wanting nice things, but if owning them things puts you in debt and forces you to work to the bone for OTHER men, it’s just not worth it.

Where to start?

Read books like the Cashflow Quadrant by Robert Kiyosaki or the Four-Hour Work Week. Start your own business, become a digital nomad, or just reduce your working hours, buy less shit, and use your spare time to travel, learn, and better yourself.

We’re done. Now get unlearning!

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If there’s anything that you have unlearned on your path to betterment, leave a comment!

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In just a very short time, the manosphere has proliferated, encompassing a diverse array of blogs on everything from pick-up to work-out programs to introspective intellectual discourse on Western society. But ultimately, the manosphere is about men seeking to improve themselves, both personally and as a group.

They offer the “Red Pill”: The cold truth.

Most of the time, we’re all on the same page. However, over time ‘the movement’ (if you could call it that) has started to change. It has started to evolve. But first and foremost, let’s examine it as a reactionary movement.

The Reactionary Manosphere

While the manosphere is a mixed bag, most of the prominent manosphere bloggers are traditional-conservatives, nearly all American, who are really pissed off—and rightly so. As third wave feminism infects their society and corrupts female minds, women are taught to emulate men with regard to their sexual behavior. Never mind empirical evidence on differences in genetic imperatives. Never mind evolutionary biology 101. Never mind the fact that a greater number of sexual partners decreases a woman’s ability to pair bond. Never mind the  divorce rate, the broken homes, and the debt-ridden welfare state. Forget all that.

Sadly, the new ‘equalism’  in the West trumps logic and science in the 21st century. Political correctness/cultural Marxism is  the new religion, and any person who intelligently debates it’s follies  is shamed publicly for their heresy—both socially and in the mainstream media.

The reaction of many in the manosphere? Anger. They want it to stop. They want the balance restored. Many bloggers use the tools of critical theory (responsible for feminist theory) to counter-attack.  They talk about gender-bias and the fem-centric paradigm of the media, the courts, and the political system. They voice the injustice. And very often, they have a point.

However, as many of the Reactionaries have figured, the problem with this approach is that’s it’s fucking useless. The new thought police are impervious to logic. Today, as throughout history, rationale is rarely “right”. People are sheep and reason gets put on the back burner when it comes to people’s feeeellllings!!!

Only action can effect change.

The Progressive Manosphere

I understand that ‘progressive’ can be a dirty word in the US. ‘Progress” is not always good. After all, killing Jews was also considered ‘progressive’ in Nazi-Germany. But let’s just take the word in its ordinary meaning and redefine it for us men.

The new manosphere is about progress. It’s about dialogue. It’s about options. We see the mess around us, but now we’re looking for the flowers after the flood. Realizing the futility of fighting the system, The MGTOW  (Men going their own way) movement continues to blossom.

Western men who have taken ‘the red pill’ are starting to reject their broken women and are refusing to fulfill their societal expectations and ‘man up’.

Some choose eternal bachelorhood—rejecting marriage, family, and a welfare state. They pump and dump and exploit weakness where they see it. Some even opt out of the gene pool all together, refusing to reproduce.

Others choose exodus and leave their homelands—looking for greener pastures with more traditional gender roles, where women are more feminine and the word ‘family’ means something.

Ultimately, I commend these men. They are smart and brave enough to enjoy their lives on their own terms.

But is bachelorhood and exodus my only choice? 

Yes.

Yes, it is.

As a man, you’re only choice should be to opt out.

Don’t get me wrong, still play the game. Embrace the new sexual  marketplace—as brutal, loveless, and unforgiving as as it is. Talk about free love. Talk about having “unfenced” relationships with multiple women. (Check out the book Sex 3.0, a must read). Just enjoy the ride. Focus on self-improvement and strive to make the most of the situation. Hell, use feminist maxims to get laid, even if you don’t believe it. “You need to explore yourself in your 20′s”, “Men can do it, why can’t you?”, or “I think it’s cool when a women is in touch with their sexuality.” “Trust your vagina…she knows everything. Now open your legs.”

Play the game alright, but don’t marry these women. If you do, you are a fool.

The smart ones choose eternal bachelorhood, or exodus.

Now that’s what I call progress.

Because the more men opt out,  the better. Let’s lower productivity, lower tax revenue, and increase the burden on the state. Let the tower crumble, let the welfare will dry up, and let the leeches starve.

We will rebuild and welcome the return of men.

Until then (to quote a fellow manopshere blogger), enjoy the decline.

Ultimately, it doesn’t matter what you think of this brave new world. Just milk it for all it’s worth. Determine your OWN values, make your OWN rules, always work to improve yourself, exploit the international system, and find an environment that offers you the greatest chance of happiness.

Go your own way.

OK, you got me. I haven’t had a monogamous relationship since I was 18. However, recently I was reminded of what it is like. Last week, I had an Omani fly over to spend a week with me (I was her first infidel and obviously made an impression). It was fun, but I basically had to babysit the girl. She slept in my bed, ate with me, and was with me 90% of the time. It felt like we were married or something. I went beta for a week. It was an eye-opener. Here are 10 things I noticed…

1. You watch a lot more movies.

I rarely watch movies or TV—unless it’s something like the latest Bond or Tarantino film—but damn, does having a girl increase your time in front of a screen. I’ve noticed this phenomenon in other relationships amongst my friends and siblings. It makes sense. If you’re spending EVERY night with the same person—especially a girl with limited conversation skills—you end up filling the void with popcorn.

2. You develop unhealthy eating habits.

Most people who enter into relationships gain weight. It has happened so many people known to both you and I— especially when they move in together. Since my brother moved in with his Eastern European girlfriend, he’s ballooned like a walrus. Because you eat together, you end up eating more of the same things. That requires compromise. Compromise = Chinese food and pizza. Unless you have a health conscience girlfriend, you’ll may soon be a double chin away for heart surgery.

3. You become less productive.

Having your ballsack empty morning, noon, and night, kills your boner for everything else in life. You become lazy. Your T-levels drop. You procrastinate. Your dick is like, “Hey, you’re getting laid three times a day. Job done, my friend. Relax.” Men need to achieve status and wealth to attract top-tier mates. Having ass on tap hampers the desire to hunt.

4. You exercise less.

For the same reasons you are less productive, you exercise less. Why build the body of Adonis to attract a mate when you already have one? That’s a waste of time. Wouldn’t you rather watch the latest series of Entourage? The truth is many girls are so insecure, they actively discourage their men from improving the bodies—for fear of increased competition. They don’t want you to better yourself, just to lock you down. Combine this with #2 and you’re on a downward spiral. Soon, the only time you’ll break a sweat is when you’re waddling past the gym trying to make it in time for breakfast at McDonalds.

5. You feel imprisoned.

You can’t do what you want all the time. Want to get high and write music? Go the pub with the lads? Go to Moldova for a week? WAIT. Everything needs to be floated by your chica, who will undoubtedly give you shit—at least if she’s a self-entitled Westerner anyway. Unless you have a nice placid Asian girl or something similar, you are doomed to compromising all your life.

6. You spend more money.

While going out with the lads and casual dating can cost you beer money, that’s nothing compared to having a full-time hag. ‘Real’ dates—like eating out, movies, and the like—cost more. If you’re girl is a traditionalist, you’ll also be paying for shit at least 70% of the time, too. Then of course there’s birthdays, Christmas, Ramadan, Valentines day… the list goes on.

On a side note: Did you know it would cost me at least $20,000 in dowry money to marry a girl from Arabian Gulf? DAM! That’s IF you get permission from the king, that is. No girl is worth that much, unless she shit jewelry that I could use to seduce other women.

7. You miss guy time and guy talk.

Girls take up your time. Realistically, guys would rather spend MORE time with their male friends than their girlfriends. But relationships see the reverse happen. And then, when you’re with your boys, you can’t even have guy talk. Your friend is like…

“Hey, you know that black chick from Saturday who took my number? Yep, fucked her last night—in every orifice—I even tied her up on my homemade torture rack and made call me ‘Master’. Slapped her round a bit too—she loved that shit. Sooo hot. What did you do last night?”

“Watched a movie.”

8. You’re constantly looking over your shoulder.

Other girl messages you on Facebook—hide. Plenty of fish notice—hide. Run a game blog that explicitly details all your filthy sexual encounters with strangers—hide, hide, hide! For fuck sake. That’s no way to live. I couldn’t even log on to the forum or to  Returnofkings until my girl was passed out asleep.

9. You’re sexually frustrated.

Even though you’re getting regular sex, you’re STILL frustrated passing up strange. And if you live with your girlfriend, it’s REALLY hard to bring back other women and have sex with them. Girlfriends don’t like that for some reason. Men are not meant to be monogamous! You want to bone everything, but you can’t. An opportunity presents itself—too bad. It’s gruel for you again today. Enjoy.

10. Sex can get less exciting.

This is a given if you’re humping the same thing, day in, day out. However, you can mix it up. I got my Omani girl to bring over her abaya, scarf and niqab (that’s the ninja-style Muslim outfit). We spend the whole day walking around the mall in it, inviting all sorts of stares from locals. I felt like a powerful overlord or something. And then, when we got home I ravaged her ninja ass while she kept it on. I even got a blow job under the veil. It was fatwahlicious!  But I don’t want to get that creative every day. Finding a new piece of tail is far easier and more exciting.