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5 Things You Should Un-learn

Some of you may remember the final passage in my book, when I answered the question: What is the one thing I’ve learned from travelling the world? My answer was this: If anything, I’ve unlearned more than I’ve learned.

The concept of breaking away from one’s behavioral conditioning / socialisation is quite well illustrated in ‘The Red Pill’ concept which has become a central tenet of Manosphere thinking.

Taking the Red Pill is the first step in ‘unplugging from the matrix’ and questioning your cultural indoctrination. To help you on that path, I’ve devised 5 concepts that you must unlearn for you to rebuild yourself as a better, smarter, more introspective person.

1. Unlearn Religion

Religion is for the blind. If you want to be a theist and believe in all-powerful sky god that will send you to a fiery underworld for eating bacon, go ahead, but ask yourself: What if you grew up somewhere else? Your world view would be as different as your words. Like language, the only thing that determines a religious person’s belief system is geography. If you were born in the Trobriand Islands, you’d believe pregnancy occurs after praying to the sun. If you were born in the Bible belt, you’d probably believe a into magic man who came back as a zombie to save the world from their sins. Both are equally ridiculous.

While there may be nuggets of wisdom embedded in every religion, that does excuse the other 95% of illogical, hocus-pocus crap that comes with it.

Determine your OWN values and develop your OWN principals after heavy consideration, wide reading, and intellectual discourse.

Where to Start?

I suggest reading books like the God Delusion by Richard Dawkins. Then build on that by tackling the classics, the great philosophers, and modern works on the subjects of ethics, well-being, and self-improvement.

2. Unlearn Equality

“All men HUMANS* are created equal.”  *Feminist edit.

“All humans LIVING THINGS** are created equal.” **Animal rights activist edit.

Ah yes, the immortal declaration—one of the most poisonous and pervasive ideas in Western society. Never mind the fact that the founding fathers had to audacity to pen this during mass slavery. Nowadays, equality is on the lips of every revolution, and every non-rich, non-political, non-male, non-white, non-westerner there is.

Guess what?

Equality is a myth. Is does not exist. It is an idealist pipe-dream. A noble idea, perhaps, applicable is some circumstances (like suffrage), but when taken too literally is has no grounding in reality. There is a hierarchy to everything and the faster you accept that, the better. 

Take beauty for example. Some are born more beautiful than others. A war against “Fat shaming” won’t change that.

Take race for example. West Africans are born stronger and taller than southeast Asians.

Take sex for example. Men are more with more testosterone and less estrogen than women, which results in different behavioral attributes. Shocking, I know.

Take class for example. People from rich, first world families will go on to be richer than those born in the slums of central Africa. We are the 99%. Boo-hoo. What you gonna do about it?

The unnatural concept of equality  should be obvious, but equalist ideology has tried to convince us that bioscience and human nature are irrelevant. Don’t be fooled.

Where to Start?

You can complain about inequality or you can make the most of your position and do your very best to work your way up the feeding chain. Get rich, get game, get stronger and sexier.

3. Unlearn Women

If only.

This point is redundant if you’re a regular reader, but I’ll repeat myself. Unless you’re into game, unlearn everything you’ve been taught about women. Do not listen to women when they talk about what they want, because most of them haven’t a clue or lie about it. Most importantly, unlearn EVERYTHING your mother ever told you about women. Flowers, dinner dates, compliments… all BAD. Women say they want a man to be sensitive, giving, little puppy dogs, yet when it comes down to it, they end up falling assholes who who sleep with their best friends. You don’t have to be an asshole to get laid, but being a ‘nice guy’ will get you squat.

Where to Start?

Learn Game and everything you can about attraction.

4. Unlearn ‘Wise’ Sayings

Adages, proverbs, or ‘wise old sayings’ are the cereal bars of wisdom. They’re good marketing that package ideology is a sentence. But not all ideology is right or wise. A good idiom may seem profound and give you the feelies, but tear open the shiny wrapper and often what you’ll inside is pure rubbish. (But don’t get me wrong, some of worth saving.)

Where to Start?

Here’s are list of 7 examples of bad idioms off the top of my head you should immediately put out of your mind.

1. “Be Yourself.”

Be yourself!

Don’t. Be better. Never settle to simply ‘be yourself’. Couldn’t you be more educated, fitter, or speak another language. Yourself if not good enough. Strive to be your best self.

2. “The pen is mightier then the sword.”

Ever got stabbed with a sword? Fuck that.

3. “Two wrongs don’t make a right.”

Not always. If a guy raped your daughter and you killed him, you’d feel pretty good about it. Vengeance is sweet.

4. “Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.”

This is what fat and ugly say to make themselves feel better. Beauty is mathematically quantifiable. Everybody knows beauty when they see it.

5. “A penny saved is a penny earned.”

Ever heard of inflation?

6. “Honesty is the best policy.”

No, not always. Lying is often very advantageous. “Don’t worry, I just got checked and I’m clean. Now suck that dick.” * Physic* Hmm… AIDSilicious.

“Absence makes the heart grow fonder.”

Actually, absence leads to cheating. Absence makes the heart go fondle.

5. Unlearn Materialism and The Rat Race

Go to school, get a good degree, get a good job, work 9-5 for 30 to 40 years, but TONS OF SHIT in the process, then fuck off and die.

That’s the script you’re supposed to follow. Why? What’s the point in having a nice car, a big house, and trophy wife who spends your money when it means a life of slavery in the cooperate world?

You could make quarter of that cash online and live like a king in Asia. Or you could work part time and travel the world. Or better yet, work for yourself. Regardless, don’t spend all your cash on stupid shit just to show off to other people. Studies have shown that people are more satisfied spending their money on experiences rather than material possessions.

Think Lifestyle. Think Freedom. Think Minimalism.

There’s nothing wrong with riches and wanting nice things, but if owning them things puts you in debt and forces you to work to the bone for OTHER men, it’s just not worth it.

Where to start?

Read books like the Cashflow Quadrant by Robert Kiyosaki or the Four-Hour Work Week. Start your own business, become a digital nomad, or just reduce your working hours, buy less shit, and use your spare time to travel, learn, and better yourself.

We’re done. Now get unlearning!


If there’s anything that you have unlearned on your path to betterment, leave a comment!


26 Responses to 5 Things You Should Un-learn

  1. sirmarjalot May 11, 2013 at 3:41 pm #

    Enjoy your decline 😉

  2. zhai2nan2 May 11, 2013 at 3:54 pm #

    >I suggest reading the God Delusion by Richard Dawkins.

    When I get some free time, I’ll have to write a short introduction to why Dawkins is not a competent philosopher.

    Briefly, Dawkins used to have a functioning brain, many years ago, when he limited himself to biology.

    His popular works on atheism have been widely panned by scholars because he shoots his mouth off without any kind of peer review.

    If you want a competent attempt at atheism, you will get more mileage out of Bertrand Russell. Don’t get too excited, though – Russell and Ayer were both shot down by real mathematicians while they were still alive.

    If you want to build up a philosophical education, *don’t* start with Dawkins. Even Spencer and Russell are not a great foundation. Start with mathematical logic.

  3. 'Reality' Doug May 11, 2013 at 4:02 pm #

    Very pithy and succinct distillation of wisdom. If I had this 20years ago when I was young, woulda redeemed my life, if you know what I mean. The Jesus pic is priceless. My only quibble is the pic of accurate Mother’s Advice. No woman would give that advice, as you said in your prose, so perhaps the intended effect is lost on me.

  4. Mark May 11, 2013 at 4:24 pm #

    Agree with everything except 1. If one is about Islam then okay I agree. But if it’s Judaism and Christianity then I disagree.

    Also Richard Dawkins is a sniveling feminist/equalist. To believe in equality and evolution, like he does, is contradictory. Natural selection was different in different environments so it would be impossible to shape the same organism into being the same especially when they’ve lived in diff areas for so long. His word holds little value.

    Grew up atheist/feminist/equalist due to watching too much tv and reading their work all my life. The media is wrong about femiism/equalism so why would they also be right about religion.

    Religion built this world, it doesn’t matter if you believe in god. Religion is the accumulation of knowledge throughout the centuries and that value trumps anything atheists have. (evolution also fits into the view). Objectively, religious (at least orthodox Jews) have better lives than atheists. Strong family, less divorce, less drama about bull etc.

    I’m not religious yet but I’m learning.

    [Zolo: *Chewing Bacon*.]

  5. earl May 11, 2013 at 4:36 pm #

    “What Christian bullshit. If a guy raped your daughter and you killed him, you’d feel pretty good about it. Vengeance is sweet.”

    Emotion for an emotion (anger for lust) sounds pretty feminine (XX) to me…two wrongs don’t make a right.

    6. “Honesty is the best policy.”

    No, it’s not. Lying is often very advantageous.

    Then tell me why nice guy screws up and the asshole gets all he wants…one is lying about who he is and the other is honest.

    [Zolo: Lying down and taking it sounds even more feminine.]

  6. earl May 11, 2013 at 5:40 pm #

    “Lying down and taking it sounds even more feminine.”

    Then forgive…that’s the manly action to do.

    The rapist will get the consequences of his action in one way or another.

  7. JJ Roberts May 12, 2013 at 1:13 am #

    1. Religion is not the problem fear is the problem.

    During the 1.0 era (which is roughly 97% of human existence) human beings were far more playful that we are now. We were even playful about religions and religions were benign back then :

    It is the move to the 2.0 era of mankind that not only fucked up relationships, it fucked up religion too.

    2. The problem with the word equality is that it is a polyseme. To some people sexual equality means that neither men nor women are 2nd class citizens. I agree with this. To other people sexual equality means that men and women are the same (other than the obvious biological differences). This is patent non-sense.

    3. Learning game does not give you a complete understanding. Most “game” teaching ends when penis enters vagina. It has very little to say on the subject of healthy relationships or how to maintain them but I guess that’s where my book comes in.

    4. Two wrongs don’t make a right. Like the chinese proberb says “man who seeks revenge digs two graves”

    5. Ah, the delayed happiness myth. Fairly obvious but true.

  8. tz May 12, 2013 at 3:59 am #

    The red pill is about reality, the truth. Read “the God Delusion”, but also “The Irrational Atheist” – Mao and Stalin were Atheists. There should be no fear reading both points of view if you are looking for the truth. Who has the better argument, not who agrees with you. Do calories or carbs cause you to get Fat (Common advice v.s. Gary Taubes and others)? Test everything, keep what works, tolerate what you cannot prove one way or the other.

  9. A May 12, 2013 at 5:31 am #

    “Lying is often very advantageous.” Well, this is a lot less clear if one decides to care about other people (e.g. the one that might get AIDS, in your example). And communities are much nicer when people care other people.

    And good luck with the emails, you are certainly cool enough to have a larger audience : )

  10. Ali S May 13, 2013 at 12:28 pm #

    You forgot one important point:

    6.) Unlearn what you read on sketchy online blogs run by narcissistic 20-something guys who think they’ve got it all figured out.

    Also, I’m not sure if it has to do something with you being Irish (the influence of the church there and what-not), but you seem to have a particularly strong disdain for religion. You should have clarified whether you’re just against organized religion or any kind of spiritual belief system, but your view is incredibly narrow. And Dawkins is the most beta hack there is.

    I think that religion and traditionalism is necessary to stop the nosedive in social decline that’s going in Western society. You think you have it all figured out now, but wait till it comes to raising a family – single young Western guys, however liberal or well-traveled/well-learned, can categorically not sustain long-term relationships because they think that they have to be actively anti anything that sticks to a long-held traditional narrative. Traditional family values are now being broken like they were meant to, but there was a time not too many decades ago whereby they did their job in maintaining tight-knit, successful family units – and that model had been up and working for centuries until excitable “this-is-bullshit-let’s-try-the-new-life-yeahhh” delusional revolutionaries tried to fuck it up.

    • Naughty Nomad May 13, 2013 at 2:12 pm #

      @Ali: Zing. I got a laugh out of your no.6

      However, I wasn’t attacking traditionalism or family. I was attacking the idea of worshiping a super natural creative intelligence that created the universe and intercedes according and the concept of pre-destiny…. which is what theism is.

  11. zhai2nan2 May 13, 2013 at 3:45 pm #

    > I was attacking the idea of worshiping a super natural creative intelligence that created the universe and intercedes according and the concept of pre-destiny…. which is what theism is.

    So if I say that Atman is Brahman and Tat Tvam Asi, am I a theist, a panentheist, or a deist?

    [Zolo: It depends. Do you believe you have control over your own destiny? If so, you’re not a theist. Therefore, you are an Atheist.

  12. Dude May 13, 2013 at 6:31 pm #

    He’s saying “go out and figure out what you believe in for yourself, don’t just be a sheep who believes everything about the world they were told from their youth.” Relax, everyone.

  13. Ali S May 14, 2013 at 1:37 pm #

    @NaughtyNomad You’re not making too much sense yourself here with a few things. Religion is the root of most traditionalism and cultures (by ‘religion’ I don’t mean just the Abrahamic or mainstream religions, broaden your view). Humanity by its very nature is a cesspit of depravity and ugliness that has historically been kept in check by means of unquestionable, fear-based mind control for its own good, religion being the most effective and intuitive form of it.

    The more you ‘enlightened’ new-age thinkers keep hacking away at centuries-old proven methods of keeping humans at a standardized self-sustaining level of what’s considered okay and what’s not in favour of bright-eyed naive social/anthropological experimentation, the deeper you’re unwittingly digging yourself into the abyss of humanity until it’s too late to be salvaged. Now that standard may differ among societies, but outside of liberalized Western society, this standard is very strongly influenced by religion worldwide, so your argument about all religions being useless hocus-pocus is incomplete or incorrect.

    Anyway, good luck with your new-world/red-pill ideals, I hope you keep this blog alive and active into your 40s and let us know how it has worked out for you.

  14. Introverted Playboy May 14, 2013 at 11:59 pm #

    Definitely agree with the religion part. Almost all the technological, scientific, political, security and economic gains of human history have occurred in an era (the last few hundred years) when religion was either declining or dead. The richest and most peaceful societies have the least amount of religious belief.

    And it’s true, men actually learn the most about women by observing their behavior. Listen to her actions, not her words. Guys who focus on what women “say” they want are not really in the game, they’re kind of sitting on the sidelines chatting. Only once you get into the mix and interact with women do you really see what works and what doesn’t. Sex is a primarily nonverbal phenomenon.

  15. William May 15, 2013 at 3:20 am #

    The world with no religion would be good start! A great start. The holy wars, the great crusades, Islam vs cristianity what ever!! LIVE LOVE and LAUGH and SMILE. PEACE OUT))))

  16. A May 15, 2013 at 7:34 am #

    @Ali S:

    It’s not like religion is not associated with “depravity and ugliness”.

    Also, having no religion doesn’t mean you don’t have morals – see Japan.

  17. Ali S May 15, 2013 at 2:30 pm #

    @Introverted Playboy: And do you think it’s just pure coincidence that around the same time period it began to seem like successful long-term relationships began were things of the past and every other girl was a money-grabbing cum dumpster unfit to bear children with good genes? If a socially dysfunctional, blindly materialistic society is your idea of “human progress” then enjoy the fruits.

    @William, @A: Reread my post. I’m pointing out the flipside of NaughtyNomad’s argument – religion provides the standard of moral framework of every society (and it’s not just about Christianity/ Abrahamic/ mainstream religions), and that function inherently trumps any downsides (as you say) that come with it. Not every place in the world has a nanny government keeping an eye on what’s going on. If not religion, humans will have another excuse to fight over (which proves my point, humanity is scum), use some commonsense for once and piece two and two together. By the way, until WWII, Japan was deeply ingrained with an extremely conservative and isolated culture rooted in Buddhist ideals, and though religion no longer plays a role in that society, the culture that it nurtured is very much intact. This is exactly what I meant by religion being important.

    If your idea of religion and theism is just “haha what an idiot believes in an invisible man in the sky who will punish him if you don’t listen”, joke’s on you – you’re completely missing the point, by a fucking mile. It’s the most effective form of self-sustaining mind control, and it’s absolutely essential for maintaining any semblance of normalcy and standardization in human society.

  18. Introverted Playboy May 15, 2013 at 6:36 pm #


    Your comment is too emotional and over-the-top for me to expect you to get this. But I’m writing for anyone else’s benefit who is interested.

    If by “successful long-term relationships” you mean relationships and marriages that are arranged by and for families/ clans–irrespective of the desires of the participants–out of mostly political and economic concerns, or arbitrary supernatural doctrines, then yes, that tradition is gone. What a loss. People are happier and society is more stable and wealthy when they are allowed to live as they choose, with sensible restrictions on behavior. Freedom works. I don’t think there’s very much immigration into Saudi Arabia or Iran.

    And your reference to “social dysfunction” is fallacious. It is the liberal, secular societies of the West and East Asia that are the MOST functional in human history, with the lowest rates of murder, theft, violence and other ills for their size. By contrast, among the most violent and backward societies (backward in the sense of education, literacy, skills, productive work, rational thinking, civil organization), we see a massive amount of religiosity, Abrahamic or otherwise. Examples: Afghanistan, many parts of India, Pakistan, Somalia, DR Congo, Sudan. This is not my opinion, but simply the facts.

    Western societies do have problems, yes. Personally, I’ll take a rich man’s problems over the daily threat of violence and hunger. But that’s just me.

  19. zhai2nan2 May 15, 2013 at 6:55 pm #

    >It is the liberal, secular societies of the West and East Asia that are the MOST functional in human history, with the lowest rates of murder, theft, violence and other ills for their size.

    You seem to have conflated genetic temperament with secular society.

    > This is not my opinion, but simply the facts.

    No, that’s your selective misreading of a small amount of data.

    I don’t think the two sides in this discussion are going to find any common ground, particularly not in the comments section of a tangentially related post.

    If you seriously want to argue the “facts” about human societies, I would recommend a change of venue to an HBD forum. Also, I would recommend discussing the matter with people who don’t regard you as beneath contempt.

  20. zhai2nan2 May 15, 2013 at 6:57 pm #

    >[Zolo: It depends. Do you believe you have control over your own destiny? If so, you’re not a theist. Therefore, you are an Atheist.

    I believe in poo poo.

  21. Introverted Playboy May 16, 2013 at 6:44 am #


    “You seem to have conflated genetic temperament with secular society.”

    The societies of the West (i.e. North America, Western Europe, Aus, NZ) and the most prosperous societies of East Asia (Japan, Taiwan, South Korea, etc) are among the least devout in the world. (This is all verifiable in the data and international surveys.) Most Eastern European countries are also quite secular. Genetics are irrelevant, I don’t know where that came from.

    Also note the US is among the most religious in the rich world, but even Americans in the aggregate are far less devout than Indians, Africans or Arabs.

    “No, that’s your selective misreading of a small amount of data.”

    Nope. The correlations are robust and seen across many studies. Look into Phil Zuckerman’s work for a good start.

    I do agree this discussion is tangential to this article. If anybody wants to talk about it more, you are welcome to comment on my blog. That will be my last word here.

  22. Mac May 19, 2013 at 9:34 pm #

    I like how people will stick up for religion but no one will stick up for the rat race. Sure you can say religion keeps people in check, but so does the rat race. To me they’re both the same, submit now in the hope that you’ll rewarded one day, the rat race says it’ll be in this life where religion says it’s in the next.

    I understand people who are true believers who think they’ve experienced God and all that, I grew up very religious and I understand how meaningful it can be. I don’t get people who want to praise religion as a useful fiction for keeping people in line. It feels to much like a freed slave trying to get back into his chains because he misses the stability of submission.

  23. Ali S May 21, 2013 at 5:41 am #

    I’m also religious and fully believe in theism – call me an idiot or whatever you want, that’s the way it is. To me it’s not useful fiction, it’s useful truth, but even to someone who THINKS it’s fiction – the importance of its function should be undeniable. A lot of religion-bashing today comes out of decades of pent-up frustration and childish knee-jerk conclusions (“haha what an idiot believes in a man in the sky watching him”) that are THEN justified with scientific evidence. Plus the guy who runs this blog is Irish, and Catholicism has historically had a stranglehold on his country – so I can understand why someone like him (who lives for debauchery) sees it as an obstacle.

  24. Matador June 2, 2013 at 10:47 pm #

    I didn`t read shit on this comments section. It`s so saturated with useless and subjective rants.

    How about enforcing a couple of rules on these people, such as staying on topic and not talking in circles.

  25. Alex March 8, 2017 at 8:25 am #

    Man late to the show but the number of religious idiots throwing tantrums is hilarious. Though their idiocy is saddening. From calling religions that take two thousand year old unchanged books an “evolving” body of knowledge to insisting that bed time stories are vital to society. Pathetic

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