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5 Steps to getting lucky on the First Date

I feel I’ve nearly perfected getting a girl into the sack on the first date.

Not a word of a lie, I’d say 90% of my domestic pulls in the last year have all happened on the first date (and some 80% abroad). Here’s my formula…

1. Sound Logistics

Simply put – if you don’t have a private place where you can take her, you’re screwed. If you still live with your parents, share a room, or you’re homeless, take her out for drinks and hope to Thor she has her own place. But if you want to guarantee a first day bang, you need a place. Otherwise, this article isn’t for you. You have to have an end in mind – and this means a warm environment with knee padding. Ideally, you’ll want a room with a couch where you won’t be disturbed.

2. Getting her over to your place

As I mentioned in my article on text game, use choice illusion to get her to agree to coming over.


Text 1: “Do you like chocolate…”

Most people like chocolate. 95% of the time she’ll say yes.

Text 2: ”What do you prefer, beer or wine…”

See what I’m doing? She’s getting caught in my web of trickery! Mwahaha.

Text 3 (the hook): “Hmm…well then, we should have a wine and marshmallows night. You bring the chocolate, I’ll bring the wine. I’m free Tuesday.”

If she agrees, pick her up or meet her near your cave and go directly to back to yours. She already presumes a ‘wine and chocolate night’ involves staying in.

If she smells a rat, she’ll usually text back something like, “Where? Maybe we could [insert boring shit here] instead,” or “I have to up early to [insert boring shit here] the next morning.”  In that case, she doesn’t trust you and needs to build comfort in a safe environment. In this case, play it safe and go for drinks.


3. Build the scene together

Taking a page straight from Mystery’s book, get the girl to build the seduction scene with you. Get her to light some candles while you fetch some glasses and turn on some music. This way she’s playing an active role in the romancing. She’s creating the mood to get YOU in the mood. On the other hand, if it’s just you setting the whole thing up, it’s a little creepy.

Checklist: Candles (preferably scented), soft lighting, mood music, wine, chocolate, plenty of heat.

4. Blitzkrieg Comfort

You’ve got her over, created a nice setting, and now you need build comfort and make a connection. There are plenty of tips I’m not thinking of, but here are some for doing just that.

i) Chemical Catalysts 

The best way to loosen her up is to knock her out with chloroform.

Only kidding.

I’m talking about alcohol, of course. I recommend playing drinking games like ‘I never’. It’s a fun way to get to know each other, builds up comfort, and playing with wine gets both of you nicely chilled pretty quick. Just don’t reveal too much and don’t be seen to be actively trying to get her drunk. Also there’s the issue of consent these days, so tow the line and don’t drink too much, just a little to get in the mood.

ii) Psych Games

There are a plethora of fun exercises to get to know your date a little better. Hand-writing analysis, visualisation games, cold reading, etc. are just some tools you can employ. Take a little time to learn some of this stuff. This material is too comprehensive to explain in the scope of this article so download some e-books.

The key here is to establish a deep connection with a person by finding out their fundamental truths, values and weaknesses. It’s not sinister, it’s merely getting to really know someone on a profound level. It just so happens this fosters powerful bonds that are conducive for mating purposes.

iii) Let her experience a whole spectrum of emotions

Emotions are addictive. The more emotions she experiences with you, the better.

If someone tells you about a problem they’re having, men think about how they can logically solve it, whereas women tend to mimic the feelings of that person in order to ‘understand’ how that person feels. This is useful to know.

When you’re telling a story that involves danger, she’ll get excited.

When you’re telling a story about your dead cat, she’ll get sad.

When you’re telling a story about having sex with you’re ex in a movie theatre with people around, she’ll get horny.

Push all her buttons and always display passion and sensuality. When you’ve done that, get sexual. Even if you’re talking about baking a cake, make it sound like the most erotic thing in the world.

5. Push-Pull Escalation

I’ve written a lot about this already – as many others have.

When you start making out, suddenly stop, and go back for your wine. Get her turned on, then back away. Take it slow. Think two steps forward and one step back. You want to tease the crap out of her, you want her confused, and you DO NOT want her to thinking that you are easy. Make it seem like you are hesitant, even. You must be earned.

If she shows ANY resistance along the way, cut off your attention completely. Get a glass of water. Condition her until she realises any resistance she puts up results in you withdrawing affection.

This is pretty basic stuff, but’s it’s important. Do this all the way to sex.

Advanced Move:  The Caveman Surprise

So you’ve gotten her to light candles, you’ve taken her on an emotional roller-coaster,  you’ve pushed-pulled and teased her all night, gotten her real turned on, and she is dying for you to escalate but you’re being stand off-ish. (See the paradigm shift?)

You know it’s on and the chicken is ready to come out of the oven.

She been drink and will eventually have to go the bathroom. When she leaves, hide.

When she comes back in, grab her, bend her over, rip down her pants and panties and ram it in (consenusally, of course). SHE WILL GO CRAZY – like legs-buckling, need-a-mop crazy.

I’ve done this a bunch a times. I wait in the kitchen and when they come out, I throw them over the counter and go caveman on their ass. It evokes a POWERFUL response. If you’re feeling up for it, give it a shot.

Also, take note of what she wearing. If she got multiple layers and a belt, it might be difficult to strip her and you could end up looking like a complete tit.


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10 Responses to 5 Steps to getting lucky on the First Date

  1. Miguel June 11, 2012 at 10:05 pm #


  2. Brian June 16, 2012 at 11:14 pm #

    Need some clarification on this “Caveman Surprise.”

    About how much foreplay have you done before you do this move? Been below the belt in any way?

    And this is with girls you’ve never slept with before? What happens to LMR? Or if they’re not DTF that night?

    I could see this working on a girl you’ve already banged, but it’s kind of rapey for a first date.

    Nonetheless, I’m still dying to give it a try.

    • Naughty Nomad June 18, 2012 at 3:18 pm #

      Plenty of foreplay.
      Yes, I usually do this with girls I’ve never slept with before..
      If they’re not DTF it could end badly. As I mentioned, worked 80% of the time. The other times you’ll wreck the buzz.

  3. Freshked June 18, 2012 at 11:44 pm #

    “It’s kinda rapey, yes, but a lot of girls love it.”

    Honestly, you aren’t really advocating this in a responsible manner. This is definitely a bit “rapey” and you or someone you recommend this to could end up in jail for the other 20% of the time…. Kind of sketchy.

  4. xsplat July 21, 2012 at 8:06 pm #

    I love that advanced caveman 351 move.

    It reads like an unexplainable aerial combat maneuver, something that if you haven’t already done you aren’t going to know how to do it.

    Are your pants off while you wait for her to come out?

    • Naughty Nomad July 22, 2012 at 1:09 am #

      My pants are on but one button away from dropping 😉

  5. ebou November 3, 2012 at 9:35 pm #

    love it

  6. cockmaster November 13, 2012 at 6:26 am #

    well muzzy girls arent known to be eazy
    lucky she didnt get aggressive

  7. Cris January 8, 2016 at 11:05 am #

    You’re a legend


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