Originally coined in consumer purchase behaviour, buyer’s remorse deals with cognitive dissonance – one will either reverse rationalise the decision, or come to truly regret it.
When running game, a girl experiences buyer’s remorse when you push too hard, too soon, and don’t build up enough comfort in the meantime. Result: she regrets getting too heavy with you so fast, feels manipulated, puts her guard up, and writes you off as a player.
Ultimately, this often ends up costing you a notch or promptly ends the relationship.
Well, every so often, when things are going well for a guy, his game becomes complacent. He believes he’s invincible and forgets the basics. This is usually followed by a *slap* in the face. And the learning cycle continues.
Buyer’s remorse. It’s a concept I’ve been painfully reminded of recently. Over the last few months, I’ve gotten so used to sleeping with girls on the first day by running the same routine, I’d forgotten there are still chaste girls out there.
Instead of playing my game smart, I’ve become impatient. My first dates have turned from a comfort-building meet-up in the pub. to a blitzkrieg caveman, with me picking girls up and driving directly to my place to
fuck the shit out of her listen to music and drink wine. Too fast too soon? Yes, but it had been working with the loose wenches I’d forged.
Then I invited a bootylicous Somali-Dutch girl over. Both her parents were conservative Muslims, but I figured since she spent most of her life in the Netherlands, modern feminism would have empowered her to open her legs to whoever came-a-knockin’. I was wrong. I went caveman. Twice. And she never contacted me again. If I waited until day 2, I’m 100% sure I would have my Dutch flag. Fail.
I didn’t learn and recently did the exact same thing with a Japanese teen. She had no sexual experience. I knew she was a ‘day 2 or 3’ kind of girl, but I went for the kill anyway. It was too much, too soon. And she never contacted me again.
If the girl is conservative or lukewarm on you, know when not to push so hard. Good things come to those who wait. Sometimes (and only sometimes) patience will get you laid over persistence.
What’s your experience of buyers remorse?