This letter—although not directed at anybody in particular—was prompted by a recent event. This is the third time I’ve published it.
This situation will undoubtedly happen again and again, so I’ve went through the effort of preparing a response to future friends and lovers who discover this site…
So you’ve found my blog. This is not the first time this has happened. While there are many male writers who openly discuss their bachelorhood, almost all of them write anonymously. They do so because we live in a society that shames natural male sexual behavior—and writing about it can have repercussions in both their professional and personal lives. As such, I’m one of a handful of who is actually public. And with my book, my video series, and the growing popularity of the Naughty Nomad brand, it has become almost impossible to conceal this part of my life.
Sooner or later everybody I hold dearly finds out about Naughty Nomad: parents, siblings, girlfriends, cousins, uncles and aunties—hell, I just found out that even my grandmother read my book. *Cringe.*
Surprisingly, anybody who knows me well enough is totally COOL about it.
They understand that my goal in life is to travel every country in the world and naturally I’m going explore different things and sleep with people in the process.
They understand I have to finance my travels, and having a book and a popular site is not a bad way to make money without being location dependent. Naughty Nomad is now the internet’s no.1 resource for single male travelers.
They also understand my audience is primarily single males and single males talk to each other in a certain way. We are direct, unemotional, often crass, and primarily concerned with cold hard facts and fulfilling our genetic imperative—to mate with as many young, fertile females as possible. This may be uncomfortable for those who hold on to the Disney idea of Prince Charming, but it’s reality. Naughty Nomad appeals to a certain market and is a site for masculine men, not for women or those concerned with political correctness.
Anyway, now that everybody close to me knows about my online identity, I’ve nothing left to lose with my writing. I’ve come out of the closet, so to speak, and it’s a huge relief.
Nowadays, I try to be candid, but I’m still wary about who I’m open with. So, if you’ve just found out about it through another medium aside from myself, either a) I don’t know you well enough b) You lack understanding, or c) We are either in—or about to be in— a sexual relationship and I don’t want to scare you off.
Below is my response to each category.
- A) Don’t take it personally. People are prejudice. If I feel you didn’t know me that well and I told you about my blog, you’d probably think I was an asshole. I probably didn’t have the time—or care enough—to give you the kind of lessons in evolutionary biology and masculinity that would merit introspection on your part and let you discover my authentic self.
- B) You lack understanding. You’re either religious, a radical feminist, or so culturally indoctrinated into conforming to a certain worldview, I feel you couldn’t possibly be open-minded enough to consider things like empirical evidence, logical debate, or alternative lifestyles.
- C) I am HIV free and I don’t have any children in the developing country. I’ve had tests for both.
If you have any questions, don’t be afraid to contact me.
Yours truthfully with love and respect,