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To Those in My Life Who Discover This Blog…

This letter—although not directed at anybody in particular—was prompted by a recent event. This is the third time I’ve published it.

This situation will undoubtedly happen again and again, so I’ve went through the effort of preparing a response to future friends and lovers who discover this site…

Dear reader,

So you’ve found my blog. This is not the first time this has happened. While there are many male writers who openly discuss their bachelorhood, almost all of them write anonymously. They do so because we live in a society that shames natural male sexual behavior—and writing about it can have repercussions in both their professional and personal lives.  As such, I’m one of a handful of who is actually public. And with my book, my video series, and the growing popularity of the Naughty Nomad brand, it has become almost impossible to conceal this part of my life.

Sooner or later everybody I hold dearly finds out about Naughty Nomad: parents, siblings, girlfriends, cousins, uncles and aunties—hell, I just found out that even my grandmother read my book. *Cringe.*

Surprisingly, anybody who knows me well enough is totally COOL about it.

They understand that my goal in life is to travel every country in the world and naturally I’m going explore different things and sleep with people in the process.

They understand I have to finance my travels, and having a book and a popular site is not a bad way to make money without being location dependent. Naughty Nomad is now the internet’s no.1 resource for single male travelers.

They also understand my audience is primarily single males and single males talk to each other in a certain way. We are direct, unemotional, often crass, and primarily concerned with cold hard facts and fulfilling our genetic imperative—to mate with as many young, fertile females as possible. This may be uncomfortable for those who hold on to the Disney idea of Prince Charming, but it’s reality. Naughty Nomad appeals to a certain market and is a site for masculine men, not for women or those concerned with political correctness.

Anyway, now that everybody close to me knows about my online identity, I’ve nothing left to lose with my writing. I’ve come out of the closet, so to speak, and it’s a huge relief.

Nowadays, I try to be candid, but I’m still wary about who I’m open with. So, if you’ve just found out about it through another medium aside from myself, either a) I don’t know you well enough b) You lack understanding, or c) We are either in—or about to be in— a sexual relationship and I don’t want to scare you off.

Below is my response to each category.

  • A) Don’t take it personally. People are prejudice.  If I feel you didn’t know me that well and I told you about my blog, you’d probably think I was an asshole. I probably didn’t have the time—or care enough—to give you the kind of lessons in evolutionary biology and masculinity that would merit introspection on your part and let you discover my authentic self.
  • B) You lack understanding. You’re either religious, a radical feminist, or so culturally indoctrinated into conforming to a certain worldview, I feel you couldn’t possibly be open-minded enough to consider things like empirical evidence, logical debate, or alternative lifestyles.
  • C) I am HIV free and I don’t have any children in the developing country. I’ve had tests for both.

If you have any questions, don’t be afraid to contact me.

Yours truthfully with love and respect,



27 Responses to To Those in My Life Who Discover This Blog…

  1. Fisto February 8, 2014 at 5:11 pm #

    Well said Mark

  2. Dom Torres February 8, 2014 at 9:07 pm #

    Respect for this post man.

  3. Question for NN February 8, 2014 at 9:08 pm #

    A friendly reminder: the Internet never forgets. You’re 27-28 right? Do you really think it’s worth setting your ideals in stone on the Internet and broadcasting it to the world? Every girl believes in a little bit of fantasy, what’s the harm if it keeps them happy? You just slashed your chances of securing a simple, traditional conservative girl (since you’re not a loaded millionaire, it’s still by far your best bet for ‘settling down’) by putting out these flimsy ideals for everyone to see.

    Speaking of the Internet’s memory, does the Omani chick know you have a clip of her on your YouTube channel?

    • Naughty Nomad February 9, 2014 at 12:18 pm #

      I warned her, yes.

      • Question for NN February 9, 2014 at 6:01 pm #

        And she was cool with it? I’m surprised. That could get her lashed back home (assuming she’s not married, then it would be stoning to death) if any vindictive troll on YouTube were to out her.

  4. JJ February 9, 2014 at 12:12 am #

    How did her sister find the blog?

    PS Men should never been ashamed of their primary imperative (which you accurately described in this blog post).

    Women shouldn’t be ashamed of their two primary imperatives either.

    • Ali S February 9, 2014 at 6:31 pm #

      I really admire Mark for being a ballsy go-getter who seems to be living it up (all the more impressive considering his age) but this whole ‘genetic imperative’ shit gets on my nerves. Manosphere bloggers who play the ‘game’ are globe-trotting pickup artists (some accomplished, some not) who broadcast themselves to the world, nothing more. If you find a decent girl to settle down with and are able to hold down a fulfilling relationship with kids and family, all the more power to you guys.

      But even mentioning terms like ‘evolutionary biology’ in relation to ‘game bloggers’ is absolutely preposterous (I’m a medical student btw) – we’re not even remotely close to spreading our genes. Hell, we freak out if we don’t use protection. Men’s primal imperative in the biological sense was carried out in its truest form by men like Genghis Khan (1 in every 200 people on Earth can trace their lineage back to him), Mughal emperors and various other vicious conquerors.

      Whatever men’s ‘genetic imperative’ is, it’s extremely unlikely any ‘enlightened’ Internet-educated Westerner who’s too concerned with using protection or catching STDs will ever act upon it.

  5. JJ February 9, 2014 at 12:18 am #

    PPS What do you mean exactly “All hell broke loose” ?

    • Naughty Nomad February 9, 2014 at 12:25 pm #

      No idea how she found it. I won’t discuss details and the aftermath as they might be reading. People cried.

  6. Max February 9, 2014 at 4:12 am #

    Sometimes you are forced to make decisions in your life.
    Do you want to please others or live your life free on your own terms ?
    Just follow your heart !

  7. G Ron February 9, 2014 at 4:42 am #

    I have a few thoughts-
    1-You have to have some bravery to broadcast your sex life to the World like that.
    2- I love learning about new places and prefer quality over quantity (includes food, women, even trips). I never in a million years would’ve known about Ethiopia but for you. Stuff like that is very cool. Anywhere that’s cheap has good food and length of stuff to do is always stellar.
    3-Ethically I believe in being straight up with people.

    Do you guys think its good game to tell a chick romantic crap just so you can get a snl or is t better to just be upfront and tell her you just want a quick shag?

    • Naughty Nomad February 9, 2014 at 12:27 pm #

      It depends, being too honest is not always a good thing. I wouldn’t go promising them the world, but I wouldn’t mention here either.

    • Viking February 12, 2014 at 6:25 pm #

      In the end of the day I believe that the “rules” of the game is that nobody gets too hurt and things are done in a safe way (i.e. condom use…i use them religiously no matter how hard it sucks).

      Many women require a touch of the romantic bit to want to sleep with u but I think they key is to strike a balance between being coming across as a lovable romantic type while still being honest. Leading someone on is no good and may end up biting u in the ass later on.

      My opinion is that u can have a quick shag but still throw in the romantic bits (i.e. giving her ur coat if it rains, hold the door, pay for breakfast etc) while still not encouraging anything deeper than a shag – all girls enjoy a degree of chivalry and romanticism but we must remember that they too are pragmatists and wont fall in love with a male who signals otherwise.

  8. splooge February 9, 2014 at 6:38 am #

    If this girl is very important to you and actually considered her to be a mother to your kids, you should talk to her and make peace about this. You don’t want to lose something good and not get it back.

    although I like your adventures and stories of gaming numerous fine women, I wont have a problem with you tying the knot. You have done enough to inspire your readers to do better and try and emulate what you have done.

    You already enjoyed the bachelor life that most men hell even in the manosphere can hope to get. You lived more last year then most will in their whole lives.
    You got the tightest game on the web.(those pulls in the middle east made u a legend)

    You are 27 now, You want the youth and energy to raise your family. Establish yourself in the country and pick your bride.

    ps. If you do hang up the bachelor life be sure to tell us all your game moves.

    • Naughty Nomad February 9, 2014 at 12:28 pm #

      Marriage and kids are two different things. I’ve no interest in the former. I won’t ‘settle down’ in any shape or form until I finish my travelling.

      • splooge February 10, 2014 at 8:39 pm #

        fair enough;but kids do better if folks are hitched. besides you wouldnt want child support to kill your wallet and travels.

  9. Sten February 9, 2014 at 3:25 pm #

    What they said about you in that roosh forum would be more offensive than the content of this blog. I was too honest once and paid the price from jealous trolls, now im many places removed from the real me. sad, i guess.

  10. Kronos February 9, 2014 at 7:27 pm #

    There’s nothing in the world bringing more peace of mind than being honest about yourself, your wishes, your desires and also your limitations – especially when you are honest not only to yourself but to others…Speak to others openly about your desires, especially about your carnal desires and they will value your honesty, because so many think the same but are too busy conforming to norms.
    Also, speak openly to others what you think about them. Many people are at first shocked when you give them honest feedback, but later come gratefully back to you, because you were a mirror to them. This is doubly true, when the other person is a woman.

  11. G Ron February 10, 2014 at 2:53 am #

    What do you estimate you’ve spent on traveling overall?

    Hostels seem like the way to save money but aren’t all of most hostel beds crap twin beds like a poor 8 year old kid would sleep on and not high quality bedding?

    I don’t think a dude can see much of the World for less than $150,000 USD.

    Paretos law of 80/20 has got to come into play in order to make it all more reasonable to afford for most (ie there’s say 20 countries in Latin America only visit 4 to get a general feel for the place or 30 countries in Europe visit 6 to get 80% experience on 20% of time and money).

  12. Thomas / Boy Toy February 11, 2014 at 6:00 pm #

    Hey Mark, interesting letter. I can relate a lot to your thoughts, since I’m one of the few others that has my face on my website and my dirty stories. Honestly, I think people worry way too much – YES, there has been, and definitely WILL BE some downsides to sharing our adventures online. But come on – every action has upsides and downsides, and I believe the sacrifice is worth it. I know I learned a lot from your book, and so did thousands of others. Thanks for all your work – looking forward to continuous inspiration.
    – Thomas

    • Naughty Nomad February 13, 2014 at 11:54 am #

      Thanks Tom. Great site.

  13. Raz February 14, 2014 at 10:29 pm #


    You are one of those truly inspirational guys who has set a lot of us free. I respect you wholeheartedly and hope whomever you meet feels the same. I’m sorry things haven’t worked out for you on this occasion but you shouldn’t be judged. you’re an excellent writer, journalist, friend but above all you are a legend!

    Wishing you the best

  14. Vernita April 16, 2014 at 5:06 pm #


  15. _Cicero January 7, 2015 at 9:56 am #

    Didn’t realize you had a book. I’d like to read it, you should advertise for it more on your blog…

  16. cereal killer February 21, 2016 at 12:46 pm #

    Well, Mark I am agree with some ideas into your site and not agree with others. It is normal. But what can’t understand about this article is why you feel that need to give some explanations to the people. Definitely you are a free man and you just want to have some fun, and that’s not killing anyone. If someone else want to live in another way is his liberty. And also it is an illusion to believe – people are here because are interesting about me and my personal experience. Don’t be so narcissistic. You could never live for us, and when we are here, we try to learn from others people experiences on the blog. Or at least this is how should be.
    Popularity of some site or book not mean neccesary to be a quality one also. Could be good or not so, even bad sometimes. The connection between quality and popularity is weird. Maybe american blind competition style. Yea, that’s allow you to live financially your dream what is happen here. But there are a lot of bad books, sites famous but cheap (could mention Sandra Brown and so many awful literature and philosophy).

    P.S. Also it is wrong to believe if you are in one way mens different than you not exist. For example “Prince Charming not exist..that’s reality” it is a wrong idea. It is just your personal reality. I know few and they are satisfied with that (and theirs girls also). Sometimes if you love someone the experience between are more deep than some fast sex on the road.


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