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The Dream of Every Man

“A man who sleeps with only one woman is not a man,” my Russian girlfriend told me. “I know it’s strange, but I don’t mind if you fuck other women. Just know I’m not fucking other men. My pussy is yours. I belong to you. All I ask is that you be there for me. And use protection!”

Over the past few years, I’ve had women say more or less the same thing to me. (They’re usually non-Westerners.) Even when I tell them it’s OK for them to see other guys, they don’t. And if my time in New York has confirmed to me one thing, it’s this:

There are plenty of beautiful women who will sleep with you exclusively while tolerating you sleeping with other women. 

Opera Atelier - Pasha w HaremA devoted harem.

It is the dream of every man, but the privilege of few.

There is a reason for that. Acquiring and maintaining a devoted harem is not easy. It takes a man with value, understanding, and skill to pull it off.


“A woman simply is. A man must become.”

Have a purpose. Make goals. Hit the gym.  Learn a language. Stack cash. Educate yourself. Become independent. Become more masculine. Groom. Smell good. Dress cool. Shave your balls. Read more books. Travel. Cultivate the lifestyle you want.

Are you a man of value?

If not, keep dreaming.


“There is a beast in man that needs to be exercised, not exorcised.”

Human sexuality is a complex topic. Learn all you can about it. Read, read, read. Take the red pill. Question what you’ve been taught and unlearn the falsehoods of your upbringing.

We live in a world of sexual perversions—where women are being brainwashed to mimic male sexuality in the name of equality, while men are expected to enter unnatural monogamy via government contracts.  It takes an introspective and resilient person to sift through the mainstream narrative to find truth. A comprehensive understanding of the science governing human sexuality is the most powerful tool you can have. When you meet women, seek not to shame and lambaste, but to educate and enlighten them. Once they “get it”, even the most conservative women will accept your natural sexual urges.

Do you have a deep understanding of human sexuality?

If not, keep dreaming.


Game is a skill, but love is an art.

Master Game
How good is your game? If you’re still a novice at picking up women and have little experience of relationships, you have no business thinking about harems. And even if you get one night stands regularly, that doesn’t necessarily mean you’ll be able to handle a harem effectively. It’s easy to get ‘cute’ girls into bed, but holding to hearts of highly-desirable women takes more than strategy and a good fuck. To to that, you must…

Master Emotions
To earn a woman’s devotion, you must cater not just to her sexual needs, but to her emotional needs. You can make her cum buckets, but if you don’t provide her with love and intimacy, she will seek it elsewhere. Show her too much, then she will wonder also. You are a dusty mirror. Reflect her displays of affection, but never their intensity. The art is finding balance.

Master your Time
Time management is another factor. Anything more than three girls will take up too much time. (At once stage in my life, I was seeing seven girls simultaneously. It was a full time job.)  Even with two or three lovers in your life, you have to be a master juggler. Resist the urge to see the same girl more than twice in a week. Seeing somebody once every 7-14 days is plenty. You can even stretch that out to once a month if you think you can get away with it.

All these things you must master.

Do you have such skills?

If not, keep dreaming.

For those of your with any questions, or those who have experiences with devoted harems, please share them in the comment section. 

31 Responses to The Dream of Every Man

  1. wolfgang January 25, 2014 at 3:58 pm #

    How do you know they aren’t seeing other men? This seems kind of naive to me. I mean if you’re telling them they can be with other men that’s fine but still. How long do you usually keep a girl in your harem?

    • monster221 January 29, 2014 at 9:05 am #

      you dont care. thats how. show absolutely no interest in whether or not she is seeing other men. sounds counter intuitive but it works.

      keep a girl in your harem until (a) she starts to give you too much trouble for it to be worth your time, like pushing for monogamy or snooping around or trying to pick fights, or (b) when your harem becomes too large for you to manage and she is the least valuable (most effort for least return).

  2. Dagonet January 25, 2014 at 6:00 pm #

    Absolutely spot on. Great post.

    And Wolfgang– You can tell by a girl’s behavior, emotions and actions toward you whether she is singularly devoted to you (notice I didn’t include what she “says” on that list, as that is the least reliable indicator).

    When a girl truly loves you, to a level that will become plain to see (if you have status in her eyes, fuck her well, and make her believe she can earn your commitment), you’ll know you have her and no one else can. I’d say this applies to 95% of girls. There is only room for one man in their heart/vagina when they are truly enraptured by an alpha man.

  3. Ali S January 25, 2014 at 7:06 pm #

    Lol this guy needs to know NYC girls better – they game you. Being an Irish ‘boy toy’ in NYC isn’t a bad gig at all, but don’t give in to the delusion that you’re irreplaceable – that will put you in a compromising position if time comes (and it will).

    A harem (the classical definition) implies a group of women that are forbidden to other men and are solely committed and dependent on you. You have to be a true alpha to make both of those true, the kind of alpha that has little to do with ‘game’ (a rather opaque term) or making a half-drunk girl cum viciously.

    The most reliable indicator of alpha-ness is multiple women’s willingness to have your children. So don’t take this the wrong way, but if you are rooming with two other guys and are not financially secure by 30, that’s still off the horizon – but like I said, being a nomadic ‘boy toy’ is an envious gig for most of us, so enjoy it while it lasts. And remember that NYC probably has more mega-successful guys (and women) than anywhere in the world, so that raises the stakes considerably.

    • Pete ManosphereRadio January 25, 2014 at 7:58 pm #

      Oh no!! What will I do if lots of young sluts have sex with me and never come back to bear my children? My life is ruined!

    • Naughty Nomad January 25, 2014 at 9:32 pm #

      @Ali and Wolfgang: I should probably mention these girls were are non-Americans.

      • Ali S January 25, 2014 at 10:12 pm #

        Doesn’t matter, if they’re hanging out at nightclubs or bars there’s a 90% chance they’re looking for dick. Hell, you got laid in Oman with a local, you probably know better than me about that.

        The conservative girls who really believe in the one-perfect-man fairytale stay a 100-feet-radius away from such places (my rule of thumb for gauging a girl’s willingness for casual dick is her tolerance for social drinking, I’m sure you’ll agree with that).

      • splooge January 26, 2014 at 7:59 pm #

        any nations in particular like latin or eastern europe?where its traditional but open about love?
        cause the conservative nations usually spite their men by expecting them to be virgins too(but i dont think they emphase that much importance…more like a shit test i assume).
        women want what the other girls are having and men dpnt wanna touch what the other guys had.

  4. Fisto January 25, 2014 at 7:27 pm #

    Awesome post, going to tweet it (or whatever you do with that)

  5. Gato January 25, 2014 at 11:54 pm #

    Above all, you need to be provider.

  6. Seth Rose January 26, 2014 at 1:12 am #

    “A woman simply is. A man must become.” Great quote. I’m sure your busy man, but let’s see some more like these!

    @Wolfgang: It’s unlikely that if a girl makes such a proclamation she will want to go out and sleep with other men. Sure, she can, but why would she? If she’s met a man that other men can’t hold a candle to why would she have any reason to guy seek out other guys? A lot of women sleep with different guys to fulfill different needs, but women (at least non-Western) don’t get satisfaction at a primal level from sleeping with multiple partners.

  7. JJ January 26, 2014 at 10:03 am #

    Great post.

    Agreed with Ali in the sense that other language is needed here.

    It’s one of those 2.0 language trap deals to think of harems. Ali is quite right in the sense that men who literally had harems historically – sultans, kings, emperors etc – were sexual enslaverers of women.

    They were kept under lock and key and were guarded (often by eunuchs) under punishment of death for any attempt at sexual non-exclusivity.

    When you have an unfenced relationships and you give women the freedom to explore their own desires with other people too you really are doing the opposite. You are freeing women.

    I often found the same as NN found, that when you do that they don’t have any desire to be with other men. Some do, some don’t but all know that they can if they want.

    We really need new 3.0 language to describe this because ‘harem’ is totally mis-leading. If you have a good word for this… answers on a postcard.

  8. Joe January 26, 2014 at 10:06 am #

    Naughty Nomad,
    What are some cities with an abundance of red headed European girls?

  9. Jerry January 26, 2014 at 1:05 pm #

    I wont be shaving my balls anytime soon tbh.

  10. cossack January 26, 2014 at 2:20 pm #

    good post, good to see you are enjoying NYC, harem are nice to have at times when you feel playful. Me personally I would not have more than 3. More than that is headache and time consuming killing your time of getting money.

    Not trying to sound like a hater but have to agree with Ali… don’t be fooled, these women know how to play game also… they tell you what you want to hear…. and do their own sh$t
    trust me speaking from experience….

  11. Jonathan January 26, 2014 at 5:11 pm #

    Where were raised the women who told you such things?

  12. Question January 27, 2014 at 4:42 am #

    Hey Naughty Nimad and Readers,
    What are some cities that have an abundance of white redheads???

    Thanks in advance. Gingers are my favorite type of women- so beautiful and if Slavic too- a living dream.

    • monster221 January 30, 2014 at 10:01 am #

      real red heads are generally rare. with diversity (not to knock it) and the mix of white ethnic groups, and to top it off its a recessive trait, you arent going to find any place teeming with gorgeous red headed girls. generally though they are of celtic decent and you will find higher concentrations of them in places that are historically celtic places like the iberian peninsula and the western half of the british isles as well as american places with predominant irish heritage like boston (yuck) and central texas.

      personally dark dark black girls and milky white green eyed girls with orange hair are my two favorite types as of late.

    • A May 26, 2015 at 2:22 am #

      Try the Faroe Islands.

      The far north of Scotland (around Elgin) might also be good, and easier to get to.

  13. matt jay January 27, 2014 at 6:01 am #

    Hey Mark.When are you going to come out with a New York Data Sheet? I can’t wait for that! That would be epic!!!

    • Naughty Nomad January 27, 2014 at 2:35 pm #

      @Matt: I’m more likely to come out with a small e-book on New York.
      @Q: Scotland has the highest proportion of redheads; 13% of the population has red hair. Ireland has the second highest percentage; as many as 10% of the Irish population has red, auburn, or strawberry blond hair.

  14. Question January 27, 2014 at 5:00 pm #

    Naughty Nomad,

    Thanks for the reply.

    To be more specific-

    What about redheads in central, eastern, or Southern Europe???
    In your travels were there a Few cities that had more redheads than usual???

    Ps- I read you like thin exotic brunette a with style and symmetrical feminine faces- Montreal is your town for sure. Basically a Vogue model with some decent curves- Montreal!

  15. Pegaso January 29, 2014 at 11:51 pm #

    Pardon my naivety, but… why take all that trouble when just one can do the job?

    • wolfgang February 1, 2014 at 10:01 am #

      When it comes to these things if you have to ask then you wouldn’t understand the explanation.

      • Pegaso February 1, 2014 at 7:45 pm #

        There are many other things in life that you probably do not understand either. My point is simply why keep banging chick after chick after chick endlessly, and then still some more, just for the sake of it? Sounds a bit like a spell of maniac compulsion, or some silly ego trip fuelled by an underlying hormone imbalance.

        • wolfgang February 3, 2014 at 2:59 am #

          Exactly, I don’t know why some dudes like to get fucked in the ass but if that’s what they’re into more power to em.

  16. RevLifestyleDesign January 31, 2014 at 2:47 am #

    Definitely agree on the time management front, although be careful with the Russian ones, they have the most ruthless girl game of any women 🙂

  17. Lotario February 1, 2014 at 3:24 pm #

    Welcome to female nature. Now you understand why women love badboys and are aroused by players. Note that I said aroused, which does not necessarily imply emotional commitment. This is evolutionary psychology at work. Its mainly about pre selection for favorable genes. Men can impregnate thousands of women at a time, but women can only have one man’s children. The harem structure is the norm among primates. You can’t escape human nature.

    • Viola March 14, 2014 at 12:15 pm #

      What if a woman wants a child from every man that she loves? The children will without doubt always be hers. The love she had for these men will be recreated into perfection…


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