I don’t understand people who waste time doing nothing with their lives. In my opinion, the only place you should be doing nothing is in the pub or on a beach in Thailand.
People spend their time differently. For the sake of fun, I’m going to look at the different paradigms male archetypes have when it comes to their time, using personal examples.
One of my oldest children friends is sadly an omega. He has all the potential in the world, but is a complete waster. He has been unemployed since he left school (seven years ago!) and has nothing to show for it. He spends his days tottering around his house, listening to music, reading, watching movies and occasionally picking up his bass guitar, hoping that one day he’ll be asked to join a band.
Now 25, he’s never even kissed a girl – and he’s actually not a bad looking guy! It’s sad, but he does nothing about it. The guy won’t even read his best friend’s blog because he’s thinks game might compromise “being himself”.
He expects that “someday” things will just magically work out for him ( maybe it will), but in the meantime, he’s busy doing nothing that will help improve his life. Don’t get me wrong, I love the guy – he’s smart, talented and good-natured, but it’s frustrating when he refuses my help to pull him out of his stagnant existence. I’m worried if I wasn’t looking out for him, he could end up as a 60-year wino living in a council house and still a virgin (but I won’t let that happen).
He makes be appreciate my time more.
He inspires me to be more productive.
Another one of my oldest children friends (and fellow pirate) is a definitive beta – and he’s not ashamed to admit it! The polar opposite of my omega friend, this guy bought a house at 18, started a pension, and has worked his ass off for the last 7 years – and even managed to get his degree and masters by doing evening classes. He has excelled in the field, gotten awards and promotions and even been on the cover of magazines for his achievements.
He is a reliable, good, solid man with a a bright future – the ultimate provider beta. He knows that one day, he’ll be the perfect catch for some lucky gold-digger who’s spent her twenties being pumped and dumped by bad boys life myself, but now wants to settle down, knowing that her clock is ticking and her beauty is fading.
(Barnacle B, if you’re reading this: sorry dude, but you’d even said this yourself! haha)
But his betaness comes at a cost. He’s stuck in the rat race, enslaved by his pay-cheque, has a mortgage to worry about, and will have to wait until his retirement before he can enjoy the fruits of his labour. He’s resigned to working in the office all day and going green with envy when reading about our crew’s adventures (but at least he get’s to join us for a few short trips a year).
He makes be appreciate my time more.
Like my omega friend, he inspires my to be more productive.
I honestly can’t think of a lot of people more busy or productive than myself. I’m not the most alpha guy in the world, but I get more ass than 95% of men.
By day, I’m doing full-time Masters degree, trying to run a business, building websites, raring cattle on my grandfathers farm, helping out my parent’s business, and learning two languages.
By night, I’m working with my editors on my new book, playing soccer matches to keep fit, dating multiple women, reading, networking and socialising with friends when I can.
I recently joined an established rock band as their new frontman, so I will be gigging and touring the country for the next year. As such, at the moment I’m busy practising my keys, guitar, sax and singing skills.
In the immediate future, I have zero room for anything else in my life.
You may have noticed even the blog has suffered – reduced to a single post once a week at moment.
By September however, I’ll have a book published, have finished my Masters and be literally living the rock star lifestyle – and jetting of to party pirate-style whenever I can.
It will all be worth it.
But right now, I have work like a dog.
However, all work and no play makes this nomad a sad panda. So in a fortnight, I’m off to Oslo and the Baltics for a few days with a crew of five strong – should be fun!
Don’t Waste Time
In conclusion, this post was really just a chance to rant about how busy I am.
But by offering you personal examples in the Omega / Beta / Alpha format, I hope I’ve given you something to think about it.
Are you wasting time?
Are you sacrificing all your time by slaving away?
Or are you being productive and having fun?
In the end, life is about balance. We all need our downtime, but think about your ideal lifestyle and what step you need to take to get there – sooner rather than later.
Time is precious, so don’t waste it.
We reap what we sow. Some plant oak trees and wait decades for a big pay-off. Some plant crops that yield every season.
Just don’t be the guy who eats the seeds.